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BuddhaStein com <[email protected]>Tue, Feb 7, 2017 at 11:05 AM
To: [email protected]
Dear Alberto Puente,
I need your help. I am trying to get an answer to Attachment Based Parental Alienation from the APA.
And, yes I am a father of 3 beautiful girls that I have not had time alone with since Oct 26th 2013.
Its hard to imagine that as a father you believe that your children are & have been abused, and there is NOTHING you can do about it.
I have sent Jim Slewa emails regarding this issue and have not received a response.
I will copy in this email: the diagnosis, some posts that describe that AB-PA is not a theory but a diagnosis, and books by Dr. Craig Childress
If you can PLEASE give me some kind of response I would very much appreciate that.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried
____________________________________________________________________
Diagnosis
DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse
regarding the parenting practices of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
__________________________________________________________________________________________________
https://www.facebook.com/craig.childress.77/posts/10208963863645601
It is not a theory. It is diagnosis.
Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display - diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent - diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is not a theory. This is diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are not disagreeing with a theory. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis.
What I explain, in detail, in Foundations are the underlying established and fully accepted, scientifically based, psychological principles and constructs that lead to the diagnosis.
Nowhere am I proposing anything novel or new. I am applying standard and fully established, scientifically based, fully accepted psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. This is called diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
If you want to disagree with a diagnosis then describe where the diagnosis is in error. Describe another form of pathology other than the psychological abuse and psychological control of the child by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent that produces all three of these specific symptoms in the child’s symptom display. All three at the same time. All three. Together.
What other pathology will produce all three - all three, together - of these symptoms in the child?
There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce this specific set of three symptoms in the child's symptom display other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent. This is called diagnosis.
Diagnosis. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
Diagnosis.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is called diagnosis.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Below is a post by Dr Craig Childress.
The attachment system is the brain network that manages all aspects of love and bonding across the lifespan (including loss and grieving) .
The pathology I describe in Foundations (i.e., an attachment-based model of "parental alienation") is caused by a constellation of distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent that are being transferred to the attachment system of the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
These information structures of the parent were damaged by childhood trauma experienced by this parent.
During adolescence and young adulthood, these distorted and damaged information structures of the now narcissistic/(borderline) parent coalesced into the narcissistic and borderline personality characteristics (the Dark Triad personality traits and the Vulnerable Dark Triad personality traits) that are now being expressed in current family relationships.
The rejection and abandonment inherent to divorce activates the distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent due to the need to process loss and grieving. The narcissistic/(borderline) parent then triangulates the child into the spousal conflict (manipulates and exploits the child) as a means to stabilize the collapsing personality structure of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
The child is manipulated and exploited by the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent (the Dark Triad parent) through techniques of psychological control (e.g., Barber; Kerig - e.g., guilt induction, contingent withdrawal of love, etc.) into forming a cross-generational coalition (Minuchin; Haley) with the narcissistic/(borderline) parent against the other parent.
The core manifestation of this pathology is through the creation in current relationships of a false trauma reenactment narrative from the childhood trauma of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent which is contained in the childhood trauma pattern of “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” (Bowlby: an internal working model; Beck: a schema).
According to Perlman and Courtois: “Reenactments of the traumatic past are common in the treatment of this population and frequently represent either explicit or coded repetitions of the unprocessed trauma in an attempt at mastery. Reenactments can be expressed psychologically, relationally, and somatically and may occur with conscious intent or with little awareness. One primary transference-countertransference dynamic involves reenactment of familiar roles of victim-perpetrator-rescuer-bystander in the therapy relationship. Therapist and client play out these roles, often in complementary fashion with one another, as they relive various aspects of the client’s early attachment relationships.” (p. 455)
According to Prager: “Freud [in Moses and Monotheism] suggests that overwhelming experience is ‘taken up into what passes as normal ego and as permanent trends within it.' and, in this manner, passes trauma from one generation to the next. In this way, trauma expresses itself as time standing still… Traumatic guilt - for a time buried except through the character formation of one generation after the next - finds expression in an unconscious reenactment of the past in the present.” (p. 176)
According to van der Kolk: “When the trauma fails to be integrated into the totality of a person’s life experiences, the victim remains fixated on the trauma. Despite avoidance of emotional involvement, traumatic memories cannot be avoided: even when pushed out of waking consciousness, they come back in the form of reenactments, nightmares, or feelings related to the trauma… Recurrences may continue throughout life during periods of stress.” (p. 5)
The term “parental alienation” is a common-culture label for a form of pathology. It is not an accepted construct in clinical psychology. That’s why I always put the term in quotes. It is a common-culture term, not a clinical psychology construct.
The correct clinical psychology term for the pathology typically subsumed under the common-culture label of “parental alienation” is pathogenic parenting (patho=pathology; genic=genesis, creation). Pathogenic parenting is the creation of significant psychopathology in the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
The construct of pathogenic parenting is an established professional construct in early childhood mental health surrounding attachment-related pathology, since distortions to the normal-range functioning of the attachment system are always the product of pathogenic parenting. The attachment system never spontaneously dysfunctions. It only dysfunctions as a result of pathogenic parenting. (the term "pathogenic caregiving" was used in the DSM-IV in reference to attachment-related pathology).
Pathogenic parenting. The creation of significant psychopathology in the child as a result of severely aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Pathogenic parenting is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
The treatment for all forms of child abuse, physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse, is to protectively separate the child from the abusive parent, treat the psychological damage to the child created by the child abuse, require that the abusive parent receive collateral therapy to gain insight into the cause of the prior abuse before restoring the abusive parent's relationship with the child (so that the abuse is not repeated), and then to restore the child’s relationship with the previously abusive parent as warranted and with sufficient safeguards to ensure that the child abuse does not resume upon resumption of the child’s relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
References
Pearlman, C.A., Courtois, C.A. (2005). Clinical Applications of the Attachment Framework: Relational Treatment of Complex Trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18, 449-459.
Prager, J. (2003). Lost childhood, lost generations: the intergenerational transmission of trauma. Journal of Human Rights, 2, 173-181.
van der Kolk, B.A. (1987). The psychological consequences of overwhelming life experiences. In B.A. van der Kolk (Ed.) Psychological Trauma (1-30). Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press, Inc.
--
Kenneth Gottfried
BuddhaStein.com
828-406-8760
BuddhaStein com <[email protected]>Tue, Feb 7, 2017 at 11:31 AM
To: [email protected]
Dear Antonio Puente,
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BuddhaStein com <[email protected]>Thu, Mar 9, 2017 at 9:33 AM
To: Antonio Puente <[email protected]>
Hi Antonio,
Here is a Video that goes into Child Abuse much more eloquently than I can write or come across. I hope you find It educational.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LShhQhPjqsE&feature=youtu.be
It is a great representation.
When you have a parent that states my child is being abused, is it your policy to shut them out and pretend that nothing is happening?
This is not a custody issue, it is a child protective issue.
The difference in peoples character :
When you see a child being abused,
You either help or let the abuse continue.
Or even worse, you fight for the CHILD ABUSE to continue.
Kenneth Gottfried
828-406-8760
Dr. Puente
4 messages
BuddhaStein com <[email protected]>Tue, Feb 7, 2017 at 11:05 AM
To: [email protected]
Dear Alberto Puente,
I need your help. I am trying to get an answer to Attachment Based Parental Alienation from the APA.
And, yes I am a father of 3 beautiful girls that I have not had time alone with since Oct 26th 2013.
Its hard to imagine that as a father you believe that your children are & have been abused, and there is NOTHING you can do about it.
I have sent Jim Slewa emails regarding this issue and have not received a response.
I will copy in this email: the diagnosis, some posts that describe that AB-PA is not a theory but a diagnosis, and books by Dr. Craig Childress
If you can PLEASE give me some kind of response I would very much appreciate that.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried
____________________________________________________________________
Diagnosis
DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse
regarding the parenting practices of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
__________________________________________________________________________________________________
https://www.facebook.com/craig.childress.77/posts/10208963863645601
It is not a theory. It is diagnosis.
Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display - diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent - diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is not a theory. This is diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are not disagreeing with a theory. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis.
What I explain, in detail, in Foundations are the underlying established and fully accepted, scientifically based, psychological principles and constructs that lead to the diagnosis.
Nowhere am I proposing anything novel or new. I am applying standard and fully established, scientifically based, fully accepted psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. This is called diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
If you want to disagree with a diagnosis then describe where the diagnosis is in error. Describe another form of pathology other than the psychological abuse and psychological control of the child by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent that produces all three of these specific symptoms in the child’s symptom display. All three at the same time. All three. Together.
What other pathology will produce all three - all three, together - of these symptoms in the child?
There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce this specific set of three symptoms in the child's symptom display other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent. This is called diagnosis.
Diagnosis. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
Diagnosis.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is called diagnosis.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Below is a post by Dr Craig Childress.
The attachment system is the brain network that manages all aspects of love and bonding across the lifespan (including loss and grieving) .
The pathology I describe in Foundations (i.e., an attachment-based model of "parental alienation") is caused by a constellation of distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent that are being transferred to the attachment system of the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
These information structures of the parent were damaged by childhood trauma experienced by this parent.
During adolescence and young adulthood, these distorted and damaged information structures of the now narcissistic/(borderline) parent coalesced into the narcissistic and borderline personality characteristics (the Dark Triad personality traits and the Vulnerable Dark Triad personality traits) that are now being expressed in current family relationships.
The rejection and abandonment inherent to divorce activates the distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent due to the need to process loss and grieving. The narcissistic/(borderline) parent then triangulates the child into the spousal conflict (manipulates and exploits the child) as a means to stabilize the collapsing personality structure of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
The child is manipulated and exploited by the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent (the Dark Triad parent) through techniques of psychological control (e.g., Barber; Kerig - e.g., guilt induction, contingent withdrawal of love, etc.) into forming a cross-generational coalition (Minuchin; Haley) with the narcissistic/(borderline) parent against the other parent.
The core manifestation of this pathology is through the creation in current relationships of a false trauma reenactment narrative from the childhood trauma of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent which is contained in the childhood trauma pattern of “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” (Bowlby: an internal working model; Beck: a schema).
According to Perlman and Courtois: “Reenactments of the traumatic past are common in the treatment of this population and frequently represent either explicit or coded repetitions of the unprocessed trauma in an attempt at mastery. Reenactments can be expressed psychologically, relationally, and somatically and may occur with conscious intent or with little awareness. One primary transference-countertransference dynamic involves reenactment of familiar roles of victim-perpetrator-rescuer-bystander in the therapy relationship. Therapist and client play out these roles, often in complementary fashion with one another, as they relive various aspects of the client’s early attachment relationships.” (p. 455)
According to Prager: “Freud [in Moses and Monotheism] suggests that overwhelming experience is ‘taken up into what passes as normal ego and as permanent trends within it.' and, in this manner, passes trauma from one generation to the next. In this way, trauma expresses itself as time standing still… Traumatic guilt - for a time buried except through the character formation of one generation after the next - finds expression in an unconscious reenactment of the past in the present.” (p. 176)
According to van der Kolk: “When the trauma fails to be integrated into the totality of a person’s life experiences, the victim remains fixated on the trauma. Despite avoidance of emotional involvement, traumatic memories cannot be avoided: even when pushed out of waking consciousness, they come back in the form of reenactments, nightmares, or feelings related to the trauma… Recurrences may continue throughout life during periods of stress.” (p. 5)
The term “parental alienation” is a common-culture label for a form of pathology. It is not an accepted construct in clinical psychology. That’s why I always put the term in quotes. It is a common-culture term, not a clinical psychology construct.
The correct clinical psychology term for the pathology typically subsumed under the common-culture label of “parental alienation” is pathogenic parenting (patho=pathology; genic=genesis, creation). Pathogenic parenting is the creation of significant psychopathology in the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
The construct of pathogenic parenting is an established professional construct in early childhood mental health surrounding attachment-related pathology, since distortions to the normal-range functioning of the attachment system are always the product of pathogenic parenting. The attachment system never spontaneously dysfunctions. It only dysfunctions as a result of pathogenic parenting. (the term "pathogenic caregiving" was used in the DSM-IV in reference to attachment-related pathology).
Pathogenic parenting. The creation of significant psychopathology in the child as a result of severely aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Pathogenic parenting is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
The treatment for all forms of child abuse, physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse, is to protectively separate the child from the abusive parent, treat the psychological damage to the child created by the child abuse, require that the abusive parent receive collateral therapy to gain insight into the cause of the prior abuse before restoring the abusive parent's relationship with the child (so that the abuse is not repeated), and then to restore the child’s relationship with the previously abusive parent as warranted and with sufficient safeguards to ensure that the child abuse does not resume upon resumption of the child’s relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
References
Pearlman, C.A., Courtois, C.A. (2005). Clinical Applications of the Attachment Framework: Relational Treatment of Complex Trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18, 449-459.
Prager, J. (2003). Lost childhood, lost generations: the intergenerational transmission of trauma. Journal of Human Rights, 2, 173-181.
van der Kolk, B.A. (1987). The psychological consequences of overwhelming life experiences. In B.A. van der Kolk (Ed.) Psychological Trauma (1-30). Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press, Inc.
--
Kenneth Gottfried
BuddhaStein.com
828-406-8760
BuddhaStein com <[email protected]>Tue, Feb 7, 2017 at 11:31 AM
To: [email protected]
Dear Antonio Puente,
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BuddhaStein com <[email protected]>Thu, Mar 9, 2017 at 9:33 AM
To: Antonio Puente <[email protected]>
Hi Antonio,
Here is a Video that goes into Child Abuse much more eloquently than I can write or come across. I hope you find It educational.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LShhQhPjqsE&feature=youtu.be
It is a great representation.
When you have a parent that states my child is being abused, is it your policy to shut them out and pretend that nothing is happening?
This is not a custody issue, it is a child protective issue.
The difference in peoples character :
When you see a child being abused,
You either help or let the abuse continue.
Or even worse, you fight for the CHILD ABUSE to continue.
Kenneth Gottfried
828-406-8760