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Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to colwelljt
Hi Dr. Colwell,
Cam you please explain this for me.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to colwelljt
Maybe I should send you the link too. :)
https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&pid=sites&srcid=ZGVmYXVsdGRvbWFpbnxjZW50cmFsb2hpb3BhfGd4OjFmZmQyOWFhNTY0NGUyMjQ
James Colwell <[email protected]>10/31/16
to me
Sorry but I wasn't aware of this, nor have we had discussions of such. Would have to review.
Again, sorry I have no information at present.
Travis
Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to James
Hi Travis,
Can you please give me a time when I can expect a response.
Thank you
Ken
James Colwell <[email protected]>10/31/16
to me
Sorry I'm not sure what to tell you at this time. I've seen no APA response to this new book.
Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to James
Hi James,
What is the official position on Parental Alienation?
KenJ Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/1/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
Again I am sorry but I am unaware of APA’s official position on Parental Alienation. I would suggest that you visit APA’s website and/ or contact the Public Relations office regarding such. Also, honestly speaking as I am not a family or child therapist I have limited knowledge and have rarely worked in the area.
Good luck with your request and search through APA. The website is apa.org and there should also be a contact number listed for public relations if needed.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:
Sent: Tuesday, November 1, 2016 12:23 AM
To: James Colwell <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: Parental alienation
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/1/16
to James
Hi Dr. Colwell
I appologize. I was mislead to believe you were North Carolina's APA representative.
I will look up who that representative is and contact them.
My apologies.
Ken
J Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/1/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
No apologies and you were not misled. I am North Carolina’s representative on the APA council. But still, “Parental Alienation” is not something that has recently been discussed and even if it were, council members do not “speak” for APA unless a general policy statement is presented. This is usually done through the APA office and Public Relations. I hope this helps a little. A search on APA’s website suggest similar information presented in the book you mentioned, which I believe may have been discussed around 2008. However additional or further discussion of this has not occurred since my service on council.
Again, the Public Relations office should be able to provide you with someone more knowledgeable of this policy/ position you are asking, as well as the area for family and child psychology.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:]
Sent: Tuesday, November 1, 2016 7:37 PM
To: James Colwell <[email protected]>
Subject: RE: Parental alienation
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/1/16
to James
Hi Dr Colwell,
I am sorry, but this further confuses me.
I read a book called Foundations by Dr. Craig Childress and have done some extensive research on ABPA.
In this book it goes into how Attachment based Parental Alienation is child abuse.
As bad or worse than sexual or physical abuse.
Children and parents are comitting suicide because of Attachment based Parental alienation.
I am very confused how this has not been addressed by the APA.
As the NC representative can you please find out why the APA is helping triangulate and perpetuate child abuse by not addressing attachment based child abuse.
This is serious and not acceptable.
May I please have the president's name and email address for the APA so I may copy him/her.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>11/3/16
to James
Dr. Colwell,
Can you please give me the APA's presidents email. I am very confused why the APA has not taken a stand of AB-PA.
Why it is left out of child abuse.
Why you can not take any action on this subject.J Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/3/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
I again invite you to the APA website, apa.org. If you look under “Governance” or Who we are” you will find information on our current APA president, Dr. Susan McDaniel. You can also directly email from the website regarding any questions or concerns. Also listed on the website are our past council policies ranging over a number of years, I believe since 1960. I quickly searched the term “parental alienation” and found some mixed information on our APA website. I was just curious about any discussions, references, or policies regarding such. Overall it seems that the term is still somewhat controversial, at least from what I have briefly noticed. As such and given the “lack of data and consistent research” regarding this term/ syndrome, it seems that APA has not taken a specific stand on this which I found and copied below. I’m sure that there is much information and books regarding this topic, as you suggested through your own research, but I just have not seen or been part of such through APA. Dr. Daniel and APA may have other viewpoints and opinions, so I do invite you to contact them if you desire.
Apologies for your confusion and frustration that APA has not more directly addressed this term and controversy. Maybe with additional, objective research, and books on the subject, this is something that may take place in the future.
Good luck in obtaining the information that you are seeking. Sorry I could not be of more help.
Travis Colwell
January 1, 2008
Statement on Parental Alienation Syndrome
The American Psychological Association believes that all mental health practitioners as well as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA 1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack of data to support so-called "parental alienation syndrome", and raised concern about the term's use. However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.
The American Psychological Association, in Washington, D.C., is the largest scientific and professional organization representing psychology in the United States and is the world's largest association of psychologists. APA's membership includes more than 150,000 researchers, educators, clinicians, consultants and students. Through its divisions in 53 subfields of psychology and affiliations with 60 state, territorial and Canadian provincial associations, APA works to advance psychology as a science, as a profession and as a means of promoting human welfare.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:]
Sent: Thursday, November 3, 2016 3:54 PM
To: James Colwell <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: Parental alienation
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/16/16
to James
Hi Travis,
May I please get the presidents email and phone number for the APA.
I can not find them on the website.
Thank you
Ken
J Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/16/16
to me
Mailing address:
American Psychological Association
750 First Street, NE
Washington, DC 20002-4242
Telephone: (800) 374-2721 or (202) 336-5500
Again, the easiest way to contact would be through the APA website. Apa.org. Then type in “council leadership team” in the search window. And when you click on council leadership team, a list of members will come up and you can email any desired member directly. I typically communicate council members through an APA list serve, so this if the best and most direct information I can provide.
Good luck with your efforts.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:]
Sent: Wednesday, November 16, 2016 2:18 PM
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/16/16
to James
Is there an email for the office of the president?
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/16/16
to James
Hi Travis,
FYI, did that (tried to comunicate on APA's website) with no response.
During which time another father blew his brains out because of Attachment based PA.
Ken
James Colwell <[email protected]>11/17/16
to me
The information I gave you last night did email directly to any council team member, which includes the APA president. Please follow previous instructions and you will see each specific member and email.
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/17/16
to James
Hi Travis,
The links it has opens up in a Microsoft outlook window that I do not use..
Again for the third time
Do you have the presidents and chairs direct email address.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201305/the-impact-parental-alienation-parents
https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/2d68yk/i_was_a_child_affected_by_parental_alienation/
http://canadiancrc.com/Newspaper_Articles/National_Post-Darrin_White-Fathers_suicide_becomes_rallying_cry_for_fairness_in_court_01APR2000.aspx
http://www.israelnewsagency.com/fatherschildcustodylawsisraelsuicide6550418.html
https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=suicide%20from%20Parental%20alienation
KenJames Colwell <[email protected]>11/17/16
to me
I've attempted to help you, and given you what I have. I'm sorry you're unable to open the information. I have nothing else to offer. My advice to you now would be for you to use the information provided and contact the APA office directly for additional assistance.
Again, sorry I have been unable to help you with your request. Good luck through the APA office.
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/9/16
to MShulman
Hi Micheal,
When you have time please call me at 828-406-8760
I would like to talk about the APA's positions on a few topics.
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Shulman, Michael <[email protected]>12/9/16
to me
Ken:
Thank you for speaking with me earlier. Please see the following statement we have on parental alienation syndrome. If you have any further questions, please contact my colleague Jim Sliwa (Public Affairs Director) at 202-336-5707 or [email protected]. Thanks.
http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2008/01/pas-syndrome.aspx
Very kind regards,
Michael
Michael Shulman | Public Affairs Specialist
Public and Member Communications
American Psychological Association
750 First Street NE, Washington, DC 20002-4242
Tel: (202) 336-5700 | Fax: (202) 336-5708
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Sent: Friday, December 09, 2016 1:25 PM
To: Shulman, Michael
Subject: Would like to talk
Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/9/16
to Michael
Hi Michael,
Thank you for that information.
Now if you can answer the question about "Attachment Based Parental Alienation" that would be good.
Thank you
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Kenneth Gottfried <>12/9/16
to jsliwa
Hi Jim,
I have asked Michael Shulman for the APA's statement on Attachment Based Parental Alienation.
What I received was a statement on a PAS that was not brought up..
Can you give me the APA's statement or stance on Attachment Based Parental Alienation.
Also I would like to double check I have the president of the APA's email correct: [email protected]
Thank youSliwa, Jim <[email protected]>12/9/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
The statement you were referred to is the only statement the APA has on parental alienation of any type.
Jim Sliwa, Director
Public Affairs
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Sent: Friday, December 09, 2016 3:08 PM
To: Sliwa, Jim <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: Would like to talk
Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/9/16
to Jim
Hi Jim,
With therapists coming out and stating Parental alienation is child abuse specifically, Attachment Based Parental Alienation, are you saying that the APA has triangulated itself in favor of child abuse and refuses to make a statement regarding AB-PA and there is no such thing as psychological child abuse?
Or are you stating your members are grossly incorrect and the APA refutes any claims that there is a thing as psychological child abuse?
Thank you
Ken
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/12/16
to Jim
Hi Jim,
Can you please answer the question.
Thank you
Ken
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Mills, Kim <[email protected]>12/12/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried:
My staff has given you all the information that APA has to offer on this topic. Our positions are based on scientific evidence, which explains APA’s position with respect to parental alienation.
Cordially,
Kim I. Mills, MA
Interim Senior Communications Advisor
American Psychological Association
750 First Street NE, Washington, DC 20002-4242
Tel: 202 336-6048 | Cell: 571 216-5596
www.apa.org
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/12/16
to Kim
Hi Kim
Who are you? What position do you hold?
Thank you
Ken
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Mills, Kim <[email protected]>12/12/16
to me
You can see from my signature my position.
Sent from my iPhone
On Dec 12, 2016, at 5:52 PM, Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]> wrote:
Hi Kim,
Who are you? What position do you hold?
Thank you
Ken
On Dec 12, 2016 5:31 PM, "Mills, Kim" <[email protected]> wrote:
Mr. Gottfried:
My staff has given you all the information that APA has to offer on this topic. Our positions are based on scientific evidence, which explains APA’s position with respect to parental alienation.
Cordially,
Kim I. Mills, MA
Interim Senior Communications Advisor
American Psychological Association
750 First Street NE, Washington, DC 20002-4242
Tel: 202 336-6048 | Cell: 571 216-5596
www.apa.org
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/12/16
to Kim
Hi Kim,
First, thank you for your prompt response.
If you can elaborate on these topics that would be fantastic.
I just want to be perfectly clear that the APA has:
1. Had therapists coming out stating Attachment Based Parental alienation is child abuse.
2. Knowingly has triangulated itself in favor of child abuse regarding children of AB-PA.
3. Intentionally refused to admit there is a special population regarding AB-PA individuals.
4. Refused to make a statement regarding AB-PA, and continues to state, there is no such thing as psychological child abuse?
5. Intentionally refused to protect children in high conflict divorce.
6. No belief that high conflict divorce has any repercussions on children caught in the middle of family court.
Or are you stating your members are grossly incorrect and the APA refutes any claims that there is a thing as psychological child abuse?
Please let me know when you can have these answere back to me.
Also is Jim your boss or are you his?
And finally, please give me your personal thoughts on AB-PA.
Thank you
Ken
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Kenneth Gottfried <>12/15/16
to JMurphy, Kim
Hi Kim,
I was wondering if I can get the entire board to admit they believe that Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Child Abuse) does not exist, and the family court systems should keep operating with the APA's blessing.
I think it would be great to parody that with the CEO's of cigarette company's stating their cigarettes do not cause cancer.
I will take your actions from my other email, (refusing to answer any questions) that the APA is continuing to triangulate with full knowledge
that Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Child abuse) is continuing with the APA's approval.
Ken
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Kenneth Gottfried <>12/16/16
to smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, rmcgraw, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell, cjehu, Kim, JMurphy
Hi Kim and APA Board Members,
If it is OK, I would like to get the APA's direct mailing address so I may send you a certified letter.
Again, your refusal to answer any questions about Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Not PAS) is the APA's stamp of approval
for acknowledging, encouraging and triangulating the practice of AB-PA (child abuse).
The APA encourages family courts to tear families apart using AB-PA. Causing irreparable damage to children and parents.
The APA encourages this because it creates clients for their members to profit from.
The APA encourages AB-PA (Child abuse) and should be exploited and used as a money making venture.
If at anytime you, or the APA would like to correct any these statements or address them you are very welcome to. I encourage it.
If at anytime you, or the APA are welcome to acknowledge and respond to these statements.
We are trying to allow for the considerations and view points of the APA.
The article will be published in friday 12/23/2016 weeks. Your response is needed by 12/21/2016
If you can also do me a favor and make sure I have every board members email and name, I would greatly appreciate it.
I am using every attempt for proper notification and allow the APA sufficient time to respond.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried
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Kenneth Gottfried <>Jan 27
to Michael, Jim, Kim, JMurphy, smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell
Dear APA,
I have a major dilemma and would like to ask your professional advice.
There is an abundance of information that states Attachment Based Parental Alienation is child abuse.
When there is an epidemic of child abuse that people believe is happening, How does the APA not even respond.
Not a correction of fact.
Not an immediate investigation.
Not a warning: Stop this while we look into it.
NOTHING!
Not a response.
At what point is the APA liable because of its own negligence, and allowing this to continue.
At what point does the APA become accomplices to the murdering of children?
How can the APA watch children and parents commit suicide when the APA could have intervened.
The fact that is: If we heard that pumpkins cause child abuse, we would immediately halt the sale of pumpkins until we did an immediate investigation.
The APA has more than enough evidence to investigate and put out a warning about Attachment Based Parental Alienation {CHILD ABUSE} and it does nothing.
Your response would be very much appreciated.
IF I WAS IN THE POSITION, AND I WAS GIVEN THIS MUCH EVIDENCE ABOUT CHILD ABUSE, I WOULD DO SOMETHING AS FAST AS I COULD!
Your lack of response speaks volumes.
Sincerely
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Feb 6
to Michael, Jim, Kim, JMurphy, smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell
Hi Jim Sliwa and APA Board members,
I would like to receive a notification for receipt of this email and a time for a response/ACKNOWLEDGEMENT BY THE APA.
Again this concerns Child abuse not jay walking.
Thank you
I Have included in this email requested information by Jim Sliwa.
DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse
regarding the parenting practices of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
Below is a post by Dr Craig Childress. It goes into the requested data asked by Jim Sliwa.
The attachment system is the brain network that manages all aspects of love and bonding across the lifespan (including loss and grieving) .
The pathology I describe in Foundations (i.e., an attachment-based model of "parental alienation") is caused by a constellation of distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent that are being transferred to the attachment system of the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
These information structures of the parent were damaged by childhood trauma experienced by this parent.
During adolescence and young adulthood, these distorted and damaged information structures of the now narcissistic/(borderline) parent coalesced into the narcissistic and borderline personality characteristics (the Dark Triad personality traits and the Vulnerable Dark Triad personality traits) that are now being expressed in current family relationships.
The rejection and abandonment inherent to divorce activates the distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent due to the need to process loss and grieving. The narcissistic/(borderline) parent then triangulates the child into the spousal conflict (manipulates and exploits the child) as a means to stabilize the collapsing personality structure of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
The child is manipulated and exploited by the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent (the Dark Triad parent) through techniques of psychological control (e.g., Barber; Kerig - e.g., guilt induction, contingent withdrawal of love, etc.) into forming a cross-generational coalition (Minuchin; Haley) with the narcissistic/(borderline) parent against the other parent.
The core manifestation of this pathology is through the creation in current relationships of a false trauma reenactment narrative from the childhood trauma of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent which is contained in the childhood trauma pattern of “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” (Bowlby: an internal working model; Beck: a schema).
According to Perlman and Courtois: “Reenactments of the traumatic past are common in the treatment of this population and frequently represent either explicit or coded repetitions of the unprocessed trauma in an attempt at mastery. Reenactments can be expressed psychologically, relationally, and somatically and may occur with conscious intent or with little awareness. One primary transference-countertransference dynamic involves reenactment of familiar roles of victim-perpetrator-rescuer-bystander in the therapy relationship. Therapist and client play out these roles, often in complementary fashion with one another, as they relive various aspects of the client’s early attachment relationships.” (p. 455)
According to Prager: “Freud [in Moses and Monotheism] suggests that overwhelming experience is ‘taken up into what passes as normal ego and as permanent trends within it.' and, in this manner, passes trauma from one generation to the next. In this way, trauma expresses itself as time standing still… Traumatic guilt - for a time buried except through the character formation of one generation after the next - finds expression in an unconscious reenactment of the past in the present.” (p. 176)
According to van der Kolk: “When the trauma fails to be integrated into the totality of a person’s life experiences, the victim remains fixated on the trauma. Despite avoidance of emotional involvement, traumatic memories cannot be avoided: even when pushed out of waking consciousness, they come back in the form of reenactments, nightmares, or feelings related to the trauma… Recurrences may continue throughout life during periods of stress.” (p. 5)
The term “parental alienation” is a common-culture label for a form of pathology. It is not an accepted construct in clinical psychology. That’s why I always put the term in quotes. It is a common-culture term, not a clinical psychology construct.
The correct clinical psychology term for the pathology typically subsumed under the common-culture label of “parental alienation” is pathogenic parenting (patho=pathology; genic=genesis, creation). Pathogenic parenting is the creation of significant psychopathology in the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
The construct of pathogenic parenting is an established professional construct in early childhood mental health surrounding attachment-related pathology, since distortions to the normal-range functioning of the attachment system are always the product of pathogenic parenting. The attachment system never spontaneously dysfunctions. It only dysfunctions as a result of pathogenic parenting. (the term "pathogenic caregiving" was used in the DSM-IV in reference to attachment-related pathology).
Pathogenic parenting. The creation of significant psychopathology in the child as a result of severely aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Pathogenic parenting is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
The treatment for all forms of child abuse, physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse, is to protectively separate the child from the abusive parent, treat the psychological damage to the child created by the child abuse, require that the abusive parent receive collateral therapy to gain insight into the cause of the prior abuse before restoring the abusive parent's relationship with the child (so that the abuse is not repeated), and then to restore the child’s relationship with the previously abusive parent as warranted and with sufficient safeguards to ensure that the child abuse does not resume upon resumption of the child’s relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
References
Pearlman, C.A., Courtois, C.A. (2005). Clinical Applications of the Attachment Framework: Relational Treatment of Complex Trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18, 449-459.
Prager, J. (2003). Lost childhood, lost generations: the intergenerational transmission of trauma. Journal of Human Rights, 2, 173-181.
van der Kolk, B.A. (1987). The psychological consequences of overwhelming life experiences. In B.A. van der Kolk (Ed.) Psychological Trauma (1-30). Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press, Inc.
Feb 6
to Michael, Jim, Kim, JMurphy, smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell
Dear Jim Slewa,
Please give me the courtesy of letting me know who you have given this too.
I would like all individuals and meetings regarding this email and information for printing and tracking purposes.
Ken
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Hi Jim Sliwa,
I also wanted to include another post of a diagnosis.
I copied this from a post by Dr. Craig Childress.
https://www.facebook.com/craig.childress.77/posts/10208963863645601
It is not a theory. It is diagnosis.
Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display - diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent - diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is not a theory. This is diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are not disagreeing with a theory. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis.
What I explain, in detail, in Foundations are the underlying established and fully accepted, scientifically based, psychological principles and constructs that lead to the diagnosis.
Nowhere am I proposing anything novel or new. I am applying standard and fully established, scientifically based, fully accepted psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. This is called diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
If you want to disagree with a diagnosis then describe where the diagnosis is in error. Describe another form of pathology other than the psychological abuse and psychological control of the child by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent that produces all three of these specific symptoms in the child’s symptom display. All three at the same time. All three. Together.
What other pathology will produce all three - all three, together - of these symptoms in the child?
There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce this specific set of three symptoms in the child's symptom display other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent. This is called diagnosis.
Diagnosis. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
Diagnosis.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is called diagnosis.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
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Please give me the courtesy of letting me know who you have given this too.
I would like all individuals and meetings regarding this email and
information for printing and tracking purposes.
Ken
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Thank you for contacting the American Psychological Association. We have received many messages about this issue and are exploring the best way to address concerns that have been raised.
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Thank you very much for your response.
I would like to follow through with who is meeting about this concern, when they are meeting and any discussions about this topic.
We are talking about Child Abuse not Jay Walking so the longer the APA waits to review this topic the more damage that is done to children and parents.
Thank you
I look forward to further communications.
Ken
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Hi Jo Anne,
I would like to know your's and the APA's direction and timeline on AB-PA.
Please imagine this, as I am using it as an example only:
A child has been kidnapped and is being abused.
Day in and day out this child is being subjected to abuse.
This goes on continually.
The people that are in charge are taking their time. Not recognizing it is child abuse.
The child's reality becomes more and more distorted and delusional.
The Whole time the APA and Court system are refusing to do anything about this child abuse.
The child is using the non-action, slow action, refusal to respond of the APA and court system as validation that what is happening is completely normal.
How does the APA justify the rape and theft of a child's youth?
Meanwhile parents from around the world have been and are screaming that this is Child Abuse for years. Books have come out, Children and parents have committed suicide all the while the powers that be, are dragging their feet. Its in the DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Its been diagnosed and the APA does nothing.
When you look into that child's eyes (or adult at this point) how do you explain that your childhood and authenticity was stolen by the APA?.
How do you explain that you are part of the APA that did this. How do you as a person detach yourself knowing that you have caused this to happen to so many children around the world?
Please give me the courtesy of letting me know where and when the APA is discussing these issues and when they are coming out with a statement regarding AB-PA.
Thank you
Ken Gottfried
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>Jan 4
to apuente
Hello Mr. Puente,
I would like to schedual in a 30 minute taped conversation about attachment based parental alienation.
Please let me know what you are available
Sincerely
Kenneth Gottfried
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Kenneth Gottfried <g>Jan 9
to apuente
Hello Mr Puente,
I am not going to stop emailing you and would like some response.
I would like to schedual in a 30 minute taped conversation about attachment based parental alienation.
Please let me know what you are available?
Sincerely
Kenneth Gottfried
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Kenneth Gottfried <>Jan 11
to apuente
Hi Mr Puente,
I am a giant pain in the ass.
I had my children taken away in family court without reason. I was given an ultimatum to loose everything I had, or be thrown in jail.
I haven't been with to my children alone in over 3 years, and according to the APA there is nothing wrong with that.Just take some drugs(Prozak/zoloft) and forget about it.
I am guessing the best thing for the APA to do is keep gas lighting the situation, and let the triangulating continuing.
I am just wondering. Are the drug companies gas lighting you? Are you gas lighting the family courts? Is it a little of both?
At what point are you a child abuser? Are you protecting child abusers? Is it a little of both?
I would like to schedule in a 30 minute taped conversation about attachment based parental alienation.
Please let me know what you are available?
Kenneth Gottfried
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BuddhaStein com <>Feb 7
to clinicalneurop.
Dear Antonio Puente,
I need your help. I am trying to get an answer to Attachment Based Parental Alienation from the APA.
And, yes I am a father of 3 beautiful girls that I have not had time alone with since Oct 26th 2013.
Its hard to imagine that as a father you believe that your children are & have been abused, and there is NOTHING you can do about it.
I have sent Jim Slewa emails regarding this issue and have not received a response.
I will copy in this email: the diagnosis, some posts that describe that AB-PA is not a theory but a diagnosis, and books by Dr. Craig Childress
If you can PLEASE give me some kind of response I would very much appreciate that.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried
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Diagnosis
DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse
regarding the parenting practices of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
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https://www.facebook.com/craig.childress.77/posts/10208963863645601
It is not a theory. It is diagnosis.
Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display - diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent - diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is not a theory. This is diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are not disagreeing with a theory. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis.
What I explain, in detail, in Foundations are the underlying established and fully accepted, scientifically based, psychological principles and constructs that lead to the diagnosis.
Nowhere am I proposing anything novel or new. I am applying standard and fully established, scientifically based, fully accepted psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. This is called diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
If you want to disagree with a diagnosis then describe where the diagnosis is in error. Describe another form of pathology other than the psychological abuse and psychological control of the child by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent that produces all three of these specific symptoms in the child’s symptom display. All three at the same time. All three. Together.
What other pathology will produce all three - all three, together - of these symptoms in the child?
There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce this specific set of three symptoms in the child's symptom display other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent. This is called diagnosis.
Diagnosis. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
Diagnosis.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is called diagnosis.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
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Below is a post by Dr Craig Childress.
The attachment system is the brain network that manages all aspects of love and bonding across the lifespan (including loss and grieving) .
The pathology I describe in Foundations (i.e., an attachment-based model of "parental alienation") is caused by a constellation of distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent that are being transferred to the attachment system of the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
These information structures of the parent were damaged by childhood trauma experienced by this parent.
During adolescence and young adulthood, these distorted and damaged information structures of the now narcissistic/(borderline) parent coalesced into the narcissistic and borderline personality characteristics (the Dark Triad personality traits and the Vulnerable Dark Triad personality traits) that are now being expressed in current family relationships.
The rejection and abandonment inherent to divorce activates the distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent due to the need to process loss and grieving. The narcissistic/(borderline) parent then triangulates the child into the spousal conflict (manipulates and exploits the child) as a means to stabilize the collapsing personality structure of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
The child is manipulated and exploited by the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent (the Dark Triad parent) through techniques of psychological control (e.g., Barber; Kerig - e.g., guilt induction, contingent withdrawal of love, etc.) into forming a cross-generational coalition (Minuchin; Haley) with the narcissistic/(borderline) parent against the other parent.
The core manifestation of this pathology is through the creation in current relationships of a false trauma reenactment narrative from the childhood trauma of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent which is contained in the childhood trauma pattern of “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” (Bowlby: an internal working model; Beck: a schema).
According to Perlman and Courtois: “Reenactments of the traumatic past are common in the treatment of this population and frequently represent either explicit or coded repetitions of the unprocessed trauma in an attempt at mastery. Reenactments can be expressed psychologically, relationally, and somatically and may occur with conscious intent or with little awareness. One primary transference-countertransference dynamic involves reenactment of familiar roles of victim-perpetrator-rescuer-bystander in the therapy relationship. Therapist and client play out these roles, often in complementary fashion with one another, as they relive various aspects of the client’s early attachment relationships.” (p. 455)
According to Prager: “Freud [in Moses and Monotheism] suggests that overwhelming experience is ‘taken up into what passes as normal ego and as permanent trends within it.' and, in this manner, passes trauma from one generation to the next. In this way, trauma expresses itself as time standing still… Traumatic guilt - for a time buried except through the character formation of one generation after the next - finds expression in an unconscious reenactment of the past in the present.” (p. 176)
According to van der Kolk: “When the trauma fails to be integrated into the totality of a person’s life experiences, the victim remains fixated on the trauma. Despite avoidance of emotional involvement, traumatic memories cannot be avoided: even when pushed out of waking consciousness, they come back in the form of reenactments, nightmares, or feelings related to the trauma… Recurrences may continue throughout life during periods of stress.” (p. 5)
The term “parental alienation” is a common-culture label for a form of pathology. It is not an accepted construct in clinical psychology. That’s why I always put the term in quotes. It is a common-culture term, not a clinical psychology construct.
The correct clinical psychology term for the pathology typically subsumed under the common-culture label of “parental alienation” is pathogenic parenting (patho=pathology; genic=genesis, creation). Pathogenic parenting is the creation of significant psychopathology in the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
The construct of pathogenic parenting is an established professional construct in early childhood mental health surrounding attachment-related pathology, since distortions to the normal-range functioning of the attachment system are always the product of pathogenic parenting. The attachment system never spontaneously dysfunctions. It only dysfunctions as a result of pathogenic parenting. (the term "pathogenic caregiving" was used in the DSM-IV in reference to attachment-related pathology).
Pathogenic parenting. The creation of significant psychopathology in the child as a result of severely aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Pathogenic parenting is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
The treatment for all forms of child abuse, physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse, is to protectively separate the child from the abusive parent, treat the psychological damage to the child created by the child abuse, require that the abusive parent receive collateral therapy to gain insight into the cause of the prior abuse before restoring the abusive parent's relationship with the child (so that the abuse is not repeated), and then to restore the child’s relationship with the previously abusive parent as warranted and with sufficient safeguards to ensure that the child abuse does not resume upon resumption of the child’s relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
References
Pearlman, C.A., Courtois, C.A. (2005). Clinical Applications of the Attachment Framework: Relational Treatment of Complex Trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18, 449-459.
Prager, J. (2003). Lost childhood, lost generations: the intergenerational transmission of trauma. Journal of Human Rights, 2, 173-181.
van der Kolk, B.A. (1987). The psychological consequences of overwhelming life experiences. In B.A. van der Kolk (Ed.) Psychological Trauma (1-30). Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press, Inc.
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Kenneth Gottfried
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BuddhaStein com <>Mar 9
to Antonio
Hi Antonio,
Here is a Video that goes into Child Abuse much more eloquently than I can write or come across. I hope you find It educational.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LShhQhPjqsE&feature=youtu.be
It is a great representation.
When you have a parent that states my child is being abused, is it your policy to shut them out and pretend that nothing is happening?
This is not a custody issue, it is a child protective issue.
The difference in peoples character :
When you see a child being abused,
You either help or let the abuse continue.
Or even worse, you fight for the CHILD ABUSE to continue.
Kenneth Gottfried
828-406-8760
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Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to colwelljt
Hi Dr. Colwell,
Cam you please explain this for me.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to colwelljt
Maybe I should send you the link too. :)
https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&pid=sites&srcid=ZGVmYXVsdGRvbWFpbnxjZW50cmFsb2hpb3BhfGd4OjFmZmQyOWFhNTY0NGUyMjQ
James Colwell <[email protected]>10/31/16
to me
Sorry but I wasn't aware of this, nor have we had discussions of such. Would have to review.
Again, sorry I have no information at present.
Travis
Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to James
Hi Travis,
Can you please give me a time when I can expect a response.
Thank you
Ken
James Colwell <[email protected]>10/31/16
to me
Sorry I'm not sure what to tell you at this time. I've seen no APA response to this new book.
Kenneth Gottfried 10/31/16
to James
Hi James,
What is the official position on Parental Alienation?
KenJ Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/1/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
Again I am sorry but I am unaware of APA’s official position on Parental Alienation. I would suggest that you visit APA’s website and/ or contact the Public Relations office regarding such. Also, honestly speaking as I am not a family or child therapist I have limited knowledge and have rarely worked in the area.
Good luck with your request and search through APA. The website is apa.org and there should also be a contact number listed for public relations if needed.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:
Sent: Tuesday, November 1, 2016 12:23 AM
To: James Colwell <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: Parental alienation
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/1/16
to James
Hi Dr. Colwell
I appologize. I was mislead to believe you were North Carolina's APA representative.
I will look up who that representative is and contact them.
My apologies.
Ken
J Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/1/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
No apologies and you were not misled. I am North Carolina’s representative on the APA council. But still, “Parental Alienation” is not something that has recently been discussed and even if it were, council members do not “speak” for APA unless a general policy statement is presented. This is usually done through the APA office and Public Relations. I hope this helps a little. A search on APA’s website suggest similar information presented in the book you mentioned, which I believe may have been discussed around 2008. However additional or further discussion of this has not occurred since my service on council.
Again, the Public Relations office should be able to provide you with someone more knowledgeable of this policy/ position you are asking, as well as the area for family and child psychology.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:]
Sent: Tuesday, November 1, 2016 7:37 PM
To: James Colwell <[email protected]>
Subject: RE: Parental alienation
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/1/16
to James
Hi Dr Colwell,
I am sorry, but this further confuses me.
I read a book called Foundations by Dr. Craig Childress and have done some extensive research on ABPA.
In this book it goes into how Attachment based Parental Alienation is child abuse.
As bad or worse than sexual or physical abuse.
Children and parents are comitting suicide because of Attachment based Parental alienation.
I am very confused how this has not been addressed by the APA.
As the NC representative can you please find out why the APA is helping triangulate and perpetuate child abuse by not addressing attachment based child abuse.
This is serious and not acceptable.
May I please have the president's name and email address for the APA so I may copy him/her.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>11/3/16
to James
Dr. Colwell,
Can you please give me the APA's presidents email. I am very confused why the APA has not taken a stand of AB-PA.
Why it is left out of child abuse.
Why you can not take any action on this subject.J Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/3/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
I again invite you to the APA website, apa.org. If you look under “Governance” or Who we are” you will find information on our current APA president, Dr. Susan McDaniel. You can also directly email from the website regarding any questions or concerns. Also listed on the website are our past council policies ranging over a number of years, I believe since 1960. I quickly searched the term “parental alienation” and found some mixed information on our APA website. I was just curious about any discussions, references, or policies regarding such. Overall it seems that the term is still somewhat controversial, at least from what I have briefly noticed. As such and given the “lack of data and consistent research” regarding this term/ syndrome, it seems that APA has not taken a specific stand on this which I found and copied below. I’m sure that there is much information and books regarding this topic, as you suggested through your own research, but I just have not seen or been part of such through APA. Dr. Daniel and APA may have other viewpoints and opinions, so I do invite you to contact them if you desire.
Apologies for your confusion and frustration that APA has not more directly addressed this term and controversy. Maybe with additional, objective research, and books on the subject, this is something that may take place in the future.
Good luck in obtaining the information that you are seeking. Sorry I could not be of more help.
Travis Colwell
January 1, 2008
Statement on Parental Alienation Syndrome
The American Psychological Association believes that all mental health practitioners as well as law enforcement officials and the courts must take any reports of domestic violence in divorce and child custody cases seriously. An APA 1996 Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family noted the lack of data to support so-called "parental alienation syndrome", and raised concern about the term's use. However, we have no official position on the purported syndrome.
The American Psychological Association, in Washington, D.C., is the largest scientific and professional organization representing psychology in the United States and is the world's largest association of psychologists. APA's membership includes more than 150,000 researchers, educators, clinicians, consultants and students. Through its divisions in 53 subfields of psychology and affiliations with 60 state, territorial and Canadian provincial associations, APA works to advance psychology as a science, as a profession and as a means of promoting human welfare.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:]
Sent: Thursday, November 3, 2016 3:54 PM
To: James Colwell <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: Parental alienation
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/16/16
to James
Hi Travis,
May I please get the presidents email and phone number for the APA.
I can not find them on the website.
Thank you
Ken
J Travis Colwell <[email protected]>11/16/16
to me
Mailing address:
American Psychological Association
750 First Street, NE
Washington, DC 20002-4242
Telephone: (800) 374-2721 or (202) 336-5500
Again, the easiest way to contact would be through the APA website. Apa.org. Then type in “council leadership team” in the search window. And when you click on council leadership team, a list of members will come up and you can email any desired member directly. I typically communicate council members through an APA list serve, so this if the best and most direct information I can provide.
Good luck with your efforts.
From: Kenneth Gottfried [mailto:]
Sent: Wednesday, November 16, 2016 2:18 PM
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/16/16
to James
Is there an email for the office of the president?
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/16/16
to James
Hi Travis,
FYI, did that (tried to comunicate on APA's website) with no response.
During which time another father blew his brains out because of Attachment based PA.
Ken
James Colwell <[email protected]>11/17/16
to me
The information I gave you last night did email directly to any council team member, which includes the APA president. Please follow previous instructions and you will see each specific member and email.
Kenneth Gottfried <>11/17/16
to James
Hi Travis,
The links it has opens up in a Microsoft outlook window that I do not use..
Again for the third time
Do you have the presidents and chairs direct email address.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201305/the-impact-parental-alienation-parents
https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/2d68yk/i_was_a_child_affected_by_parental_alienation/
http://canadiancrc.com/Newspaper_Articles/National_Post-Darrin_White-Fathers_suicide_becomes_rallying_cry_for_fairness_in_court_01APR2000.aspx
http://www.israelnewsagency.com/fatherschildcustodylawsisraelsuicide6550418.html
https://www.facebook.com/search/top/?q=suicide%20from%20Parental%20alienation
KenJames Colwell <[email protected]>11/17/16
to me
I've attempted to help you, and given you what I have. I'm sorry you're unable to open the information. I have nothing else to offer. My advice to you now would be for you to use the information provided and contact the APA office directly for additional assistance.
Again, sorry I have been unable to help you with your request. Good luck through the APA office.
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/9/16
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Hi Micheal,
When you have time please call me at 828-406-8760
I would like to talk about the APA's positions on a few topics.
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Shulman, Michael <[email protected]>12/9/16
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Ken:
Thank you for speaking with me earlier. Please see the following statement we have on parental alienation syndrome. If you have any further questions, please contact my colleague Jim Sliwa (Public Affairs Director) at 202-336-5707 or [email protected]. Thanks.
http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2008/01/pas-syndrome.aspx
Very kind regards,
Michael
Michael Shulman | Public Affairs Specialist
Public and Member Communications
American Psychological Association
750 First Street NE, Washington, DC 20002-4242
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To: Shulman, Michael
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/9/16
to Michael
Hi Michael,
Thank you for that information.
Now if you can answer the question about "Attachment Based Parental Alienation" that would be good.
Thank you
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Kenneth Gottfried <>12/9/16
to jsliwa
Hi Jim,
I have asked Michael Shulman for the APA's statement on Attachment Based Parental Alienation.
What I received was a statement on a PAS that was not brought up..
Can you give me the APA's statement or stance on Attachment Based Parental Alienation.
Also I would like to double check I have the president of the APA's email correct: [email protected]
Thank youSliwa, Jim <[email protected]>12/9/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried,
The statement you were referred to is the only statement the APA has on parental alienation of any type.
Jim Sliwa, Director
Public Affairs
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Sent: Friday, December 09, 2016 3:08 PM
To: Sliwa, Jim <[email protected]>
Subject: Re: Would like to talk
Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/9/16
to Jim
Hi Jim,
With therapists coming out and stating Parental alienation is child abuse specifically, Attachment Based Parental Alienation, are you saying that the APA has triangulated itself in favor of child abuse and refuses to make a statement regarding AB-PA and there is no such thing as psychological child abuse?
Or are you stating your members are grossly incorrect and the APA refutes any claims that there is a thing as psychological child abuse?
Thank you
Ken
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/12/16
to Jim
Hi Jim,
Can you please answer the question.
Thank you
Ken
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Mills, Kim <[email protected]>12/12/16
to me
Mr. Gottfried:
My staff has given you all the information that APA has to offer on this topic. Our positions are based on scientific evidence, which explains APA’s position with respect to parental alienation.
Cordially,
Kim I. Mills, MA
Interim Senior Communications Advisor
American Psychological Association
750 First Street NE, Washington, DC 20002-4242
Tel: 202 336-6048 | Cell: 571 216-5596
www.apa.org
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/12/16
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Hi Kim
Who are you? What position do you hold?
Thank you
Ken
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Mills, Kim <[email protected]>12/12/16
to me
You can see from my signature my position.
Sent from my iPhone
On Dec 12, 2016, at 5:52 PM, Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]> wrote:
Hi Kim,
Who are you? What position do you hold?
Thank you
Ken
On Dec 12, 2016 5:31 PM, "Mills, Kim" <[email protected]> wrote:
Mr. Gottfried:
My staff has given you all the information that APA has to offer on this topic. Our positions are based on scientific evidence, which explains APA’s position with respect to parental alienation.
Cordially,
Kim I. Mills, MA
Interim Senior Communications Advisor
American Psychological Association
750 First Street NE, Washington, DC 20002-4242
Tel: 202 336-6048 | Cell: 571 216-5596
www.apa.org
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>12/12/16
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Hi Kim,
First, thank you for your prompt response.
If you can elaborate on these topics that would be fantastic.
I just want to be perfectly clear that the APA has:
1. Had therapists coming out stating Attachment Based Parental alienation is child abuse.
2. Knowingly has triangulated itself in favor of child abuse regarding children of AB-PA.
3. Intentionally refused to admit there is a special population regarding AB-PA individuals.
4. Refused to make a statement regarding AB-PA, and continues to state, there is no such thing as psychological child abuse?
5. Intentionally refused to protect children in high conflict divorce.
6. No belief that high conflict divorce has any repercussions on children caught in the middle of family court.
Or are you stating your members are grossly incorrect and the APA refutes any claims that there is a thing as psychological child abuse?
Please let me know when you can have these answere back to me.
Also is Jim your boss or are you his?
And finally, please give me your personal thoughts on AB-PA.
Thank you
Ken
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Kenneth Gottfried <>12/15/16
to JMurphy, Kim
Hi Kim,
I was wondering if I can get the entire board to admit they believe that Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Child Abuse) does not exist, and the family court systems should keep operating with the APA's blessing.
I think it would be great to parody that with the CEO's of cigarette company's stating their cigarettes do not cause cancer.
I will take your actions from my other email, (refusing to answer any questions) that the APA is continuing to triangulate with full knowledge
that Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Child abuse) is continuing with the APA's approval.
Ken
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Kenneth Gottfried <>12/16/16
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Hi Kim and APA Board Members,
If it is OK, I would like to get the APA's direct mailing address so I may send you a certified letter.
Again, your refusal to answer any questions about Attachment Based Parental Alienation (Not PAS) is the APA's stamp of approval
for acknowledging, encouraging and triangulating the practice of AB-PA (child abuse).
The APA encourages family courts to tear families apart using AB-PA. Causing irreparable damage to children and parents.
The APA encourages this because it creates clients for their members to profit from.
The APA encourages AB-PA (Child abuse) and should be exploited and used as a money making venture.
If at anytime you, or the APA would like to correct any these statements or address them you are very welcome to. I encourage it.
If at anytime you, or the APA are welcome to acknowledge and respond to these statements.
We are trying to allow for the considerations and view points of the APA.
The article will be published in friday 12/23/2016 weeks. Your response is needed by 12/21/2016
If you can also do me a favor and make sure I have every board members email and name, I would greatly appreciate it.
I am using every attempt for proper notification and allow the APA sufficient time to respond.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried
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Kenneth Gottfried <>Jan 27
to Michael, Jim, Kim, JMurphy, smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell
Dear APA,
I have a major dilemma and would like to ask your professional advice.
There is an abundance of information that states Attachment Based Parental Alienation is child abuse.
- https://www.youtube.com/shared?ci=nvUn45-dCDA
- Foundations by Dr, Craig Childress: https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Based-Model-Parental-Alienation-Foundations/dp/0996114505/ref=as_sl_pc_tf_til?tag=parentalali09-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=b3aa37d39bc4aa2dd48ba1cd7fb5b5f7&creativeASIN=0996114505
- An Attachment-Based Model of Parental Alienation: Professional Consultation
https://www.amazon.com/Attachment-Based-Model-Parental-Alienation-Professional/dp/099611453X/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=KXQ6VPF3MFCNHFG6GYD9
When there is an epidemic of child abuse that people believe is happening, How does the APA not even respond.
Not a correction of fact.
Not an immediate investigation.
Not a warning: Stop this while we look into it.
NOTHING!
Not a response.
At what point is the APA liable because of its own negligence, and allowing this to continue.
At what point does the APA become accomplices to the murdering of children?
How can the APA watch children and parents commit suicide when the APA could have intervened.
The fact that is: If we heard that pumpkins cause child abuse, we would immediately halt the sale of pumpkins until we did an immediate investigation.
The APA has more than enough evidence to investigate and put out a warning about Attachment Based Parental Alienation {CHILD ABUSE} and it does nothing.
Your response would be very much appreciated.
IF I WAS IN THE POSITION, AND I WAS GIVEN THIS MUCH EVIDENCE ABOUT CHILD ABUSE, I WOULD DO SOMETHING AS FAST AS I COULD!
Your lack of response speaks volumes.
Sincerely
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to Michael, Jim, Kim, JMurphy, smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell
Hi Jim Sliwa and APA Board members,
I would like to receive a notification for receipt of this email and a time for a response/ACKNOWLEDGEMENT BY THE APA.
Again this concerns Child abuse not jay walking.
Thank you
I Have included in this email requested information by Jim Sliwa.
DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse
regarding the parenting practices of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
Below is a post by Dr Craig Childress. It goes into the requested data asked by Jim Sliwa.
The attachment system is the brain network that manages all aspects of love and bonding across the lifespan (including loss and grieving) .
The pathology I describe in Foundations (i.e., an attachment-based model of "parental alienation") is caused by a constellation of distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent that are being transferred to the attachment system of the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
These information structures of the parent were damaged by childhood trauma experienced by this parent.
During adolescence and young adulthood, these distorted and damaged information structures of the now narcissistic/(borderline) parent coalesced into the narcissistic and borderline personality characteristics (the Dark Triad personality traits and the Vulnerable Dark Triad personality traits) that are now being expressed in current family relationships.
The rejection and abandonment inherent to divorce activates the distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent due to the need to process loss and grieving. The narcissistic/(borderline) parent then triangulates the child into the spousal conflict (manipulates and exploits the child) as a means to stabilize the collapsing personality structure of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
The child is manipulated and exploited by the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent (the Dark Triad parent) through techniques of psychological control (e.g., Barber; Kerig - e.g., guilt induction, contingent withdrawal of love, etc.) into forming a cross-generational coalition (Minuchin; Haley) with the narcissistic/(borderline) parent against the other parent.
The core manifestation of this pathology is through the creation in current relationships of a false trauma reenactment narrative from the childhood trauma of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent which is contained in the childhood trauma pattern of “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” (Bowlby: an internal working model; Beck: a schema).
According to Perlman and Courtois: “Reenactments of the traumatic past are common in the treatment of this population and frequently represent either explicit or coded repetitions of the unprocessed trauma in an attempt at mastery. Reenactments can be expressed psychologically, relationally, and somatically and may occur with conscious intent or with little awareness. One primary transference-countertransference dynamic involves reenactment of familiar roles of victim-perpetrator-rescuer-bystander in the therapy relationship. Therapist and client play out these roles, often in complementary fashion with one another, as they relive various aspects of the client’s early attachment relationships.” (p. 455)
According to Prager: “Freud [in Moses and Monotheism] suggests that overwhelming experience is ‘taken up into what passes as normal ego and as permanent trends within it.' and, in this manner, passes trauma from one generation to the next. In this way, trauma expresses itself as time standing still… Traumatic guilt - for a time buried except through the character formation of one generation after the next - finds expression in an unconscious reenactment of the past in the present.” (p. 176)
According to van der Kolk: “When the trauma fails to be integrated into the totality of a person’s life experiences, the victim remains fixated on the trauma. Despite avoidance of emotional involvement, traumatic memories cannot be avoided: even when pushed out of waking consciousness, they come back in the form of reenactments, nightmares, or feelings related to the trauma… Recurrences may continue throughout life during periods of stress.” (p. 5)
The term “parental alienation” is a common-culture label for a form of pathology. It is not an accepted construct in clinical psychology. That’s why I always put the term in quotes. It is a common-culture term, not a clinical psychology construct.
The correct clinical psychology term for the pathology typically subsumed under the common-culture label of “parental alienation” is pathogenic parenting (patho=pathology; genic=genesis, creation). Pathogenic parenting is the creation of significant psychopathology in the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
The construct of pathogenic parenting is an established professional construct in early childhood mental health surrounding attachment-related pathology, since distortions to the normal-range functioning of the attachment system are always the product of pathogenic parenting. The attachment system never spontaneously dysfunctions. It only dysfunctions as a result of pathogenic parenting. (the term "pathogenic caregiving" was used in the DSM-IV in reference to attachment-related pathology).
Pathogenic parenting. The creation of significant psychopathology in the child as a result of severely aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Pathogenic parenting is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
The treatment for all forms of child abuse, physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse, is to protectively separate the child from the abusive parent, treat the psychological damage to the child created by the child abuse, require that the abusive parent receive collateral therapy to gain insight into the cause of the prior abuse before restoring the abusive parent's relationship with the child (so that the abuse is not repeated), and then to restore the child’s relationship with the previously abusive parent as warranted and with sufficient safeguards to ensure that the child abuse does not resume upon resumption of the child’s relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
References
Pearlman, C.A., Courtois, C.A. (2005). Clinical Applications of the Attachment Framework: Relational Treatment of Complex Trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18, 449-459.
Prager, J. (2003). Lost childhood, lost generations: the intergenerational transmission of trauma. Journal of Human Rights, 2, 173-181.
van der Kolk, B.A. (1987). The psychological consequences of overwhelming life experiences. In B.A. van der Kolk (Ed.) Psychological Trauma (1-30). Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press, Inc.
Feb 6
to Michael, Jim, Kim, JMurphy, smcdaniel, lcambell, apuente, hcoons, banton, DPrescott, sshullman, cbelar, fworrell
Dear Jim Slewa,
Please give me the courtesy of letting me know who you have given this too.
I would like all individuals and meetings regarding this email and information for printing and tracking purposes.
Ken
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Hi Jim Sliwa,
I also wanted to include another post of a diagnosis.
I copied this from a post by Dr. Craig Childress.
https://www.facebook.com/craig.childress.77/posts/10208963863645601
It is not a theory. It is diagnosis.
Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display - diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent - diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is not a theory. This is diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are not disagreeing with a theory. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis.
What I explain, in detail, in Foundations are the underlying established and fully accepted, scientifically based, psychological principles and constructs that lead to the diagnosis.
Nowhere am I proposing anything novel or new. I am applying standard and fully established, scientifically based, fully accepted psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. This is called diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
If you want to disagree with a diagnosis then describe where the diagnosis is in error. Describe another form of pathology other than the psychological abuse and psychological control of the child by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent that produces all three of these specific symptoms in the child’s symptom display. All three at the same time. All three. Together.
What other pathology will produce all three - all three, together - of these symptoms in the child?
There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce this specific set of three symptoms in the child's symptom display other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent. This is called diagnosis.
Diagnosis. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
Diagnosis.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is called diagnosis.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
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Subject: Re: Is the APA sanctioning Child Abuse?
Dear Jim Slewa,
Please give me the courtesy of letting me know who you have given this too.
I would like all individuals and meetings regarding this email and
information for printing and tracking purposes.
Ken
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> Hi Jim Sliwa and APA Board members,
>
> I would like to receive a notification for receipt of this email and a
> time for a response/*ACKNOWLEDGEMENT BY THE APA*.
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> Again this concerns *Child abuse* not jay walking.----- Message truncated -----Murphy, Jo Anne <[email protected]>Feb 7
to me, Michael, Jim, Kim, Susan, lcambell, Antonio, hcoons, Barry, DPrescott, sshullman, Cynthia, fworrell
Good afternoon,
Thank you for contacting the American Psychological Association. We have received many messages about this issue and are exploring the best way to address concerns that have been raised.
Jo Anne
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Subject: Re: Is the APA sanctioning Child Abuse?
Dear Jim Slewa,
BuddhaStein com < >Feb 7
to Jo
Dear JoAnne,
Thank you very much for your response.
I would like to follow through with who is meeting about this concern, when they are meeting and any discussions about this topic.
We are talking about Child Abuse not Jay Walking so the longer the APA waits to review this topic the more damage that is done to children and parents.
Thank you
I look forward to further communications.
Ken
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BuddhaStein com <>Feb 11
to Jo
Hi Jo Anne,
I would like to know your's and the APA's direction and timeline on AB-PA.
Please imagine this, as I am using it as an example only:
A child has been kidnapped and is being abused.
Day in and day out this child is being subjected to abuse.
This goes on continually.
The people that are in charge are taking their time. Not recognizing it is child abuse.
The child's reality becomes more and more distorted and delusional.
The Whole time the APA and Court system are refusing to do anything about this child abuse.
The child is using the non-action, slow action, refusal to respond of the APA and court system as validation that what is happening is completely normal.
How does the APA justify the rape and theft of a child's youth?
Meanwhile parents from around the world have been and are screaming that this is Child Abuse for years. Books have come out, Children and parents have committed suicide all the while the powers that be, are dragging their feet. Its in the DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Its been diagnosed and the APA does nothing.
When you look into that child's eyes (or adult at this point) how do you explain that your childhood and authenticity was stolen by the APA?.
How do you explain that you are part of the APA that did this. How do you as a person detach yourself knowing that you have caused this to happen to so many children around the world?
Please give me the courtesy of letting me know where and when the APA is discussing these issues and when they are coming out with a statement regarding AB-PA.
Thank you
Ken Gottfried
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Direct email with Antonio Puente.
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Kenneth Gottfried <[email protected]>Jan 4
to apuente
Hello Mr. Puente,
I would like to schedual in a 30 minute taped conversation about attachment based parental alienation.
Please let me know what you are available
Sincerely
Kenneth Gottfried
_________________________________________________________________________
Kenneth Gottfried <g>Jan 9
to apuente
Hello Mr Puente,
I am not going to stop emailing you and would like some response.
I would like to schedual in a 30 minute taped conversation about attachment based parental alienation.
Please let me know what you are available?
Sincerely
Kenneth Gottfried
______________________________________________________________________________
Kenneth Gottfried <>Jan 11
to apuente
Hi Mr Puente,
I am a giant pain in the ass.
I had my children taken away in family court without reason. I was given an ultimatum to loose everything I had, or be thrown in jail.
I haven't been with to my children alone in over 3 years, and according to the APA there is nothing wrong with that.Just take some drugs(Prozak/zoloft) and forget about it.
I am guessing the best thing for the APA to do is keep gas lighting the situation, and let the triangulating continuing.
I am just wondering. Are the drug companies gas lighting you? Are you gas lighting the family courts? Is it a little of both?
At what point are you a child abuser? Are you protecting child abusers? Is it a little of both?
I would like to schedule in a 30 minute taped conversation about attachment based parental alienation.
Please let me know what you are available?
Kenneth Gottfried
__________________________________________________________________________
2017
BuddhaStein com <>Feb 7
to clinicalneurop.
Dear Antonio Puente,
I need your help. I am trying to get an answer to Attachment Based Parental Alienation from the APA.
And, yes I am a father of 3 beautiful girls that I have not had time alone with since Oct 26th 2013.
Its hard to imagine that as a father you believe that your children are & have been abused, and there is NOTHING you can do about it.
I have sent Jim Slewa emails regarding this issue and have not received a response.
I will copy in this email: the diagnosis, some posts that describe that AB-PA is not a theory but a diagnosis, and books by Dr. Craig Childress
If you can PLEASE give me some kind of response I would very much appreciate that.
Thank you
Kenneth Gottfried
____________________________________________________________________
Diagnosis
DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse
regarding the parenting practices of the allied narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
__________________________________________________________________________________________________
https://www.facebook.com/craig.childress.77/posts/10208963863645601
It is not a theory. It is diagnosis.
Diagnosis is the application of standard and established psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display - diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent - diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is not a theory. This is diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are not disagreeing with a theory. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis.
What I explain, in detail, in Foundations are the underlying established and fully accepted, scientifically based, psychological principles and constructs that lead to the diagnosis.
Nowhere am I proposing anything novel or new. I am applying standard and fully established, scientifically based, fully accepted psychological principles and constructs to a symptom set. This is called diagnosis.
If you disagree, you are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
If you want to disagree with a diagnosis then describe where the diagnosis is in error. Describe another form of pathology other than the psychological abuse and psychological control of the child by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent that produces all three of these specific symptoms in the child’s symptom display. All three at the same time. All three. Together.
What other pathology will produce all three - all three, together - of these symptoms in the child?
There is no other pathology in all of mental health that will produce this specific set of three symptoms in the child's symptom display other than pathogenic parenting by a narcissistic/(borderline) parent. This is called diagnosis.
Diagnosis. You are disagreeing with a diagnosis, not with a theory.
Diagnosis.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (suppression of the child’s normal-range attachment bonding motivations toward a normal-range and affectionally available parent – diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (a set of five specific a-priori predicted narcissistic personality traits in the child’s symptom display), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (an intransigently held fixed and false belief in the child’s supposed victimization by the normal-range parenting practices of the targeted parent) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
This is called diagnosis.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Below is a post by Dr Craig Childress.
The attachment system is the brain network that manages all aspects of love and bonding across the lifespan (including loss and grieving) .
The pathology I describe in Foundations (i.e., an attachment-based model of "parental alienation") is caused by a constellation of distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent that are being transferred to the attachment system of the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
These information structures of the parent were damaged by childhood trauma experienced by this parent.
During adolescence and young adulthood, these distorted and damaged information structures of the now narcissistic/(borderline) parent coalesced into the narcissistic and borderline personality characteristics (the Dark Triad personality traits and the Vulnerable Dark Triad personality traits) that are now being expressed in current family relationships.
The rejection and abandonment inherent to divorce activates the distorted and damaged information structures in the attachment system of the narcissistic/(borderline) personality parent due to the need to process loss and grieving. The narcissistic/(borderline) parent then triangulates the child into the spousal conflict (manipulates and exploits the child) as a means to stabilize the collapsing personality structure of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent.
The child is manipulated and exploited by the pathology of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent (the Dark Triad parent) through techniques of psychological control (e.g., Barber; Kerig - e.g., guilt induction, contingent withdrawal of love, etc.) into forming a cross-generational coalition (Minuchin; Haley) with the narcissistic/(borderline) parent against the other parent.
The core manifestation of this pathology is through the creation in current relationships of a false trauma reenactment narrative from the childhood trauma of the narcissistic/(borderline) parent which is contained in the childhood trauma pattern of “abusive parent”/”victimized child”/”protective parent” (Bowlby: an internal working model; Beck: a schema).
According to Perlman and Courtois: “Reenactments of the traumatic past are common in the treatment of this population and frequently represent either explicit or coded repetitions of the unprocessed trauma in an attempt at mastery. Reenactments can be expressed psychologically, relationally, and somatically and may occur with conscious intent or with little awareness. One primary transference-countertransference dynamic involves reenactment of familiar roles of victim-perpetrator-rescuer-bystander in the therapy relationship. Therapist and client play out these roles, often in complementary fashion with one another, as they relive various aspects of the client’s early attachment relationships.” (p. 455)
According to Prager: “Freud [in Moses and Monotheism] suggests that overwhelming experience is ‘taken up into what passes as normal ego and as permanent trends within it.' and, in this manner, passes trauma from one generation to the next. In this way, trauma expresses itself as time standing still… Traumatic guilt - for a time buried except through the character formation of one generation after the next - finds expression in an unconscious reenactment of the past in the present.” (p. 176)
According to van der Kolk: “When the trauma fails to be integrated into the totality of a person’s life experiences, the victim remains fixated on the trauma. Despite avoidance of emotional involvement, traumatic memories cannot be avoided: even when pushed out of waking consciousness, they come back in the form of reenactments, nightmares, or feelings related to the trauma… Recurrences may continue throughout life during periods of stress.” (p. 5)
The term “parental alienation” is a common-culture label for a form of pathology. It is not an accepted construct in clinical psychology. That’s why I always put the term in quotes. It is a common-culture term, not a clinical psychology construct.
The correct clinical psychology term for the pathology typically subsumed under the common-culture label of “parental alienation” is pathogenic parenting (patho=pathology; genic=genesis, creation). Pathogenic parenting is the creation of significant psychopathology in the child through aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
The construct of pathogenic parenting is an established professional construct in early childhood mental health surrounding attachment-related pathology, since distortions to the normal-range functioning of the attachment system are always the product of pathogenic parenting. The attachment system never spontaneously dysfunctions. It only dysfunctions as a result of pathogenic parenting. (the term "pathogenic caregiving" was used in the DSM-IV in reference to attachment-related pathology).
Pathogenic parenting. The creation of significant psychopathology in the child as a result of severely aberrant and distorted parenting practices.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Pathogenic parenting is not a child custody issue, it is a child protection issue.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
The treatment for all forms of child abuse, physical child abuse, sexual child abuse, and psychological child abuse, is to protectively separate the child from the abusive parent, treat the psychological damage to the child created by the child abuse, require that the abusive parent receive collateral therapy to gain insight into the cause of the prior abuse before restoring the abusive parent's relationship with the child (so that the abuse is not repeated), and then to restore the child’s relationship with the previously abusive parent as warranted and with sufficient safeguards to ensure that the child abuse does not resume upon resumption of the child’s relationship with the formerly abusive parent.
This is the standard mental health response to physical child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to sexual child abuse. This is the standard mental health response to psychological child abuse.
Pathogenic parenting that is creating significant developmental pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 1), personality disorder pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 2), and delusional-psychiatric pathology in the child (diagnostic indicator 3) represents a DSM-5 diagnosis of Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed.
Diagnosis guides treatment.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, PSY 18857
References
Pearlman, C.A., Courtois, C.A. (2005). Clinical Applications of the Attachment Framework: Relational Treatment of Complex Trauma. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 18, 449-459.
Prager, J. (2003). Lost childhood, lost generations: the intergenerational transmission of trauma. Journal of Human Rights, 2, 173-181.
van der Kolk, B.A. (1987). The psychological consequences of overwhelming life experiences. In B.A. van der Kolk (Ed.) Psychological Trauma (1-30). Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Press, Inc.
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Kenneth Gottfried
BuddhaStein.com
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BuddhaStein com <>Mar 9
to Antonio
Hi Antonio,
Here is a Video that goes into Child Abuse much more eloquently than I can write or come across. I hope you find It educational.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LShhQhPjqsE&feature=youtu.be
It is a great representation.
When you have a parent that states my child is being abused, is it your policy to shut them out and pretend that nothing is happening?
This is not a custody issue, it is a child protective issue.
The difference in peoples character :
When you see a child being abused,
You either help or let the abuse continue.
Or even worse, you fight for the CHILD ABUSE to continue.
Kenneth Gottfried
828-406-8760
Attachments area
Preview YouTube video Address to the Board of Behavioral Sciences 3 3 17
Address to the Board of Behavioral Sciences 3 3 17
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