This page is dedicated to my brother without whom, I would have never though about writing it.
Thank you for your texts this morning. They were direct and to the point.
After I was able to pull myself together I went for a long walk and thought hard about what you had said. There was one major problem. You are wrong.
Where you hit a serious nerve is when you said that I had "Abandoned my family". The truth is that my children endured severe psychological child abuse and I domestic violence.
Much of this may be hard for you to understand since you have no children and your life has revolved around you and you only. I know this because of the 12+ times you said you were going to come visit your nieces and never showed up which shows what kind of person you are.
The last thing I expect you to understand is Psychological Child Abuse. It is located in the DSM-5, which is the American Psychiatrists Association’s reference of psychological disorders, under section V995.51
A study by Jennifer Jill Harmon Ph. D. shows that parental alienation affects 22 million parents just here in the U.S. Sadie Leder-Elderb & Zeynep Biringe of Colorado State University, Human Development and Family Studies
The reality is, it causes childhood trauma that is shown by higher ACEs scores in children, directly shortens a person’s life expectancy and increases their chance of suicide 12 times. Here are some other resources to help educate you on this topic:
Since you spent too little time with my family to truly know what’s happened, feel free to check out a website that I built for them,
These were my daughters right up until I left the house. My ex was a helicopter mom, OCD, and controlling. She was diagnosed with paranoid tendencies in her psychological evaluation.
Shortly after I left, my daughters started acting differently. I was trying to work with my ex-wife
but little did I realize she had already started an insidious campaign of psychological child abuse.
At first she said that my daughters needed time... then she said that the girls didn’t want to see me. Then she accused me of having an anger issue. So I started seeing a therapist. Then she said that the girls only want to see me in therapy. So I went to therapy with my girls. I did everything that I could. Then it went to Family court.
Does this sound familiar? Well it should, because nearly 100% of the people who are targeted by this type of Psychological Child Abuse and domestic violence have never heard of it.
For everyone reading this, it may send a shiver up your spine.
Have you lost touch with a parent or child shortly after divorce?
As a child have you been thinking they abandoned you and you cut off ALL communication with them and most likely their entire family?
As a parent have they completely not responded to anything. emails, phone calls, social media, gifts, letters. Have you been blocked, not know where they are?
Well, the likelihood of this being from Psychological Child abuse is pretty darn high. But don't take my word on this.
At the time, I knew that there was something seriously ‘off’ with my daughters. Now, I’ve learned about how this type of forced family estrangement pathogenic parenting, or psychological child abuse.
But don't take my word on this…take Judge Judy's.
But who would do this on their own children? Possibly someone who was raised by their grandmother. That doesn't sound too bad but when her mother can't take care of you due to psychotropic drugs being prescribed and as it turns out the grandmother murdered her husband and buried him in the back yard........ Yeah, maybe just maybe that had some play in this whole thing.
But I have my issues too. My ability to communicate my feelings are not the best. When I left, I wasn’t able to express myself properly. And it goes much deeper, and I probably could benefit from a regular therapist.
Back to the topic of fighting to have time with my children. Robby, you see I was constantly jumping through hoops. reaching out to connect (with nothing coming back) with my daughters.. It should be apparent that I was the one abandoned/isolated. That's called Domestic Violence.
The exact definition is right here about half way down. Copied directly from the Department of Justice's website.
In a normal divorce where children do not like one parent, they still stay in contact with that parent.
So, I am seeing my daughters in therapy and I have to tell the student therapist that there is something weird going on. They are not reacting rationally. I need the person in charge of this program. As it turns out it's Dr. Kurt Michaels with Appalachain State University. Kurt Michael sat in on 1 session, refused to do an assessment and diagnosed my daughter with child separation. I questioned Dr. Michaels but he assured me it was only child separation.
I emailed Kurt over the next couple of years without any response. Explaining my daughters’ refusal of any contact.
Dr. Michael remained silent. Silent to the pathogenic parenting, silent to having to report child abuse, silent to my daughters having a lifetime of psychological issues.
Silent to my daughters 12x increased risk for committing suicide. Fact: Kaiser Permanente ACEs study
Now for your knowledge, my daughters went from those sessions with Alex Kurt and Kurt Michaels to telling a judge 18 months later that they wished I was dead.
No calls from them, nothing. Think about what that does to a parents’ psyche. Think about a child's psyche that believes that.
A complete attachment bond break. Zero empathy,
309.4 Adjustment Disorder with mixed disturbance of emotions and conduct
V61.20 Parent-Child Relational Problem
V61.29 Child Affected by Parental Relationship Distress
V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse, Confirmed
It was not my position or intention to understand all of this but it was Dr. Kurt Michaels of ASU.
Now it gets corrupt: Have you ever been to family court? All I have to say is Judge F. Warren Hughes, Judge Hal Harrison are child abusers. How do I know this, well, they abused my daughters.
Without due process they refused to give me 1 minute of visitation. None. Zero. Hmmm... Why would that be?
ITS TOUGH TO WIN A CASE WHEN THE JUDGE IS BRIBED. Judge Harrison took bribes from my exes’ attorney's law firm. No, this is not a theory, its here in black and white.
Judge Hughes, well his belief is throwing due process and courtroom procedure into the toilet. All those little things you were taught in 5th grade. Due Process, Fair treatment, innocent before guilty? Well in his court that’s bullshit.
Don't believe me? Here is a link to the Lyric Fitzgibbons page.
Read the letter to Josh Stein and the Judicial Standards committee.
So Robby, the problem is that you have no clue what this type of child abuse is or does to the children that have the misfortune of encountering it.
My girls (All 3) are what seems to be enmeshed at this point. They have no contact with my side of the family. Grandmother, sisters, or you. Not even when their grandmother, our mom, who had a massive heart attack. Nothing.
From my understanding they may be in college, and I believe that my oldest daughter changed her last name.
To parents and grandparents that suffer from this form of emotion and psychological torture it destroys a person striping them of there identity and purpose.
Here are a couple of links that for your education.
Here are some videos